Valentines

Maybe I’m just bitter.  I’m not above considering that as an explanation for why I look at the guys coming in to buy $100 of flowers like they’re stupid.  I don’t know, maybe their wife’s, girlfriend’s, lovers, etc. all adore roses.  Maybe.  Flowers are always nice.  But I can’t help thinking “Hey, Buddy, have you told the woman who cleans up after you – “thanks” recently?  You know, the woman who sleeps next to you every night after you’ve eaten chili when you’re farting a god-awful cloud of stink and snoring so loud she can barely sleep.  Have you mentioned lately, that you appreciate her still being there in the morning? Have you done a load of laundry to help out with all the baskets of soggy towels and smelly socks? Have you at least given her a hug for remembering to pick up your favorite items at the grocery when she was there?  It’s just a thought, but a strategically placed love note in the middle of summer can be a far more potent reminder of love than a commercial bundle of flowers on an appointed commercial day.”

I’m not saying Valentine’s doesn’t have its uses.  It can be romantic, and full of affection, adoration and a solid dose of fun.  But from a former wife’s point of view, there’s nothing more backhanded than being dismissed 364 days a year, only to be “appreciated” for one.  Nothing more backhanded I guess, than perhaps 365 days of utter obliviousness.

So my advice is – spoil each other.  Do it on Valentines if you must, but for sure – absolutely do it year round!  No excuses about time or creativity.  Year round, everyday – look her in the eye and say, “thanks”.

And Ladies, it’s a two way street.  You never need an excuse to tell your man he’s fabulous.  I hope you all have someone to cuddle with, and at the very least someone to share a drink with on V-day.