Comments on: First Star on the Right http://theblissquest.com/blog/2008/02/03/first-star-on-the-right/ Eat My Bliss! Fri, 17 Feb 2012 11:21:10 -0800 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: Lara http://theblissquest.com/blog/2008/02/03/first-star-on-the-right/comment-page-1/#comment-9698 Lara Wed, 06 Feb 2008 20:11:57 +0000 http://theblissquest.com/blog/2008/02/03/first-star-on-the-right/#comment-9698 By the way, its the Second star to the right... :) By the way, its the Second star to the right… :)

]]> By: Athena http://theblissquest.com/blog/2008/02/03/first-star-on-the-right/comment-page-1/#comment-9616 Athena Tue, 05 Feb 2008 01:32:06 +0000 http://theblissquest.com/blog/2008/02/03/first-star-on-the-right/#comment-9616 Harley, I agree it is sad when they forget. It is almost equally as sad when they never find the balance. I think you've found a delicate and beautiful balance, Harley :) How are you doing these day? I miss you :) Harley, I agree it is sad when they forget. It is almost equally as sad when they never find the balance. I think you’ve found a delicate and beautiful balance, Harley :)

How are you doing these day? I miss you :)

]]> By: Harley http://theblissquest.com/blog/2008/02/03/first-star-on-the-right/comment-page-1/#comment-9613 Harley Tue, 05 Feb 2008 00:54:29 +0000 http://theblissquest.com/blog/2008/02/03/first-star-on-the-right/#comment-9613 It is truly sad when boys grow up and forget about Neverland. I think it's the fear of becoming one of those serious ultra-responsible bores that makes boys never want to leave Neverland. Achieving the balance is the ultimate goal - a goal that constantly shifts and adjusts as our lives change. It is truly sad when boys grow up and forget about Neverland. I think it’s the fear of becoming one of those serious ultra-responsible bores that makes boys never want to leave Neverland. Achieving the balance is the ultimate goal – a goal that constantly shifts and adjusts as our lives change.

]]> By: Athena http://theblissquest.com/blog/2008/02/03/first-star-on-the-right/comment-page-1/#comment-9612 Athena Tue, 05 Feb 2008 00:33:29 +0000 http://theblissquest.com/blog/2008/02/03/first-star-on-the-right/#comment-9612 Megan, you brilliant fairy-queen you. I love you. Thank you for knowing me. Thank you for being in on the back-story. Thank you for giving me the benefit of the doubt that I am not casting a judgment that is an end all be all condemnation. It is just what is right for me and me alone to step back and let them be. Be uninterrupted. Be youthful. Be gloriously free and young. Just BE. I will admire and adore – but I do not want to engage. I can appreciate it – but I do not need to be a part of it. I do not need to be tangled in the web to be able to marvel at its intricacy and beauty. Thank you for understand that and for helping me to express what I evidently did not say well with my metaphor. Thank you for knowing it was a generalization that has many-many exceptions and that I mistakenly assumed everyone already knew that. I hope that I am the kind of person that can admit when I am wrong. I say “oops, my bad” many times a week or “I haven’t thought of it that way.” Several times a day. I am not above evolving my viewpoints or comprehending that I may not have all the answers. The best I can do is find a place to start and work it from that point forward. That being said, I have thought of most of the comments before. They are not new to me, and my concept of what feels right to my life was not formed willy-nilly. IT WAS ONLY A DIFFICULT DECISION BECAUSE I LIKE THEM SO MUCH. The process will still live through evolution. It’s not as though I will never see them again. I am only acknowledging that my place is not in Neverland. A stop in here or there or a game of pool from time to time. A pitcher of beer or a drink at the bar. One on one or two at a time. But I feel secure in my understanding that what is best for my wellbeing is not to share space with the collective. Six or more energies at once are too much for me. I think I’m strong, but I’m not Superwoman. Also, I love your dad. He is one of the best examples of a healthy Puer Eternis I have ever had the pleasure of meeting. You are right, he is a good template. The next time you talk to him, tell him I said hi and that I can’t wait to squish him like crazy. I didn’t get the “run away” vibe at all. I picked up the “do what’s right by you” vibe. You don’t have to worry. I got everything you said and all of what I think you meant by it as well! I’m sorry you are sick and feel ucky. I hope you feel better soon. :) And Megan, thank you for understanding my language. It’s reassuring to know that someone out there hears fairytale and can speak it right back. XOXO Megan, you brilliant fairy-queen you. I love you.
Thank you for knowing me. Thank you for being in on the back-story. Thank you for giving me the benefit of the doubt that I am not casting a judgment that is an end all be all condemnation.
It is just what is right for me and me alone to step back and let them be. Be uninterrupted. Be youthful. Be gloriously free and young. Just BE. I will admire and adore – but I do not want to engage. I can appreciate it – but I do not need to be a part of it. I do not need to be tangled in the web to be able to marvel at its intricacy and beauty.
Thank you for understand that and for helping me to express what I evidently did not say well with my metaphor. Thank you for knowing it was a generalization that has many-many exceptions and that I mistakenly assumed everyone already knew that.
I hope that I am the kind of person that can admit when I am wrong. I say “oops, my bad” many times a week or “I haven’t thought of it that way.” Several times a day. I am not above evolving my viewpoints or comprehending that I may not have all the answers.
The best I can do is find a place to start and work it from that point forward.
That being said, I have thought of most of the comments before. They are not new to me, and my concept of what feels right to my life was not formed willy-nilly.
IT WAS ONLY A DIFFICULT DECISION BECAUSE I LIKE THEM SO MUCH.
The process will still live through evolution. It’s not as though I will never see them again. I am only acknowledging that my place is not in Neverland. A stop in here or there or a game of pool from time to time. A pitcher of beer or a drink at the bar. One on one or two at a time.
But I feel secure in my understanding that what is best for my wellbeing is not to share space with the collective. Six or more energies at once are too much for me.
I think I’m strong, but I’m not Superwoman.
Also, I love your dad. He is one of the best examples of a healthy Puer Eternis I have ever had the pleasure of meeting. You are right, he is a good template. The next time you talk to him, tell him I said hi and that I can’t wait to squish him like crazy.
I didn’t get the “run away” vibe at all. I picked up the “do what’s right by you” vibe. You don’t have to worry. I got everything you said and all of what I think you meant by it as well!
I’m sorry you are sick and feel ucky. I hope you feel better soon. :)
And Megan, thank you for understanding my language. It’s reassuring to know that someone out there hears fairytale and can speak it right back.

XOXO

]]> By: megan http://theblissquest.com/blog/2008/02/03/first-star-on-the-right/comment-page-1/#comment-9606 megan Mon, 04 Feb 2008 23:35:36 +0000 http://theblissquest.com/blog/2008/02/03/first-star-on-the-right/#comment-9606 wow, i just realized that my first comment was like "run run" it was not meant to be that way..I just wanted to say that if you feel this is right, then it probably is..my arguments toward other commenters points were thought-points, not "get the hell away"! I'm sure you knew this, because you know me, but since I can't talk this is the most I've said all day and you know how that can make you not get things across right..or need to clarify..or get paranoid! :) wow, i just realized that my first comment was like “run run” it was not meant to be that way..I just wanted to say that if you feel this is right, then it probably is..my arguments toward other commenters points were thought-points, not “get the hell away”! I’m sure you knew this, because you know me, but since I can’t talk this is the most I’ve said all day and you know how that can make you not get things across right..or need to clarify..or get paranoid! :)

]]> By: megan http://theblissquest.com/blog/2008/02/03/first-star-on-the-right/comment-page-1/#comment-9605 megan Mon, 04 Feb 2008 23:31:56 +0000 http://theblissquest.com/blog/2008/02/03/first-star-on-the-right/#comment-9605 PS: yes you can be a lost boy AND a man, but there are two ways it can go.. one it works and one it doesn't: It tends to not work when emotionally you are a boy and practically you are a man..I'm sure we are all intelligent enough for me to not have to explain why. It tends to work when emotionally you are a man and bottom line you are a man (ie get your bills paid etc) but you still have the ability to play. You retain the youthful joy. and I'd argue that that is still fully a man. Who says men as adults have to stop loving legos and exploring? Why is that "boyish" things? There is a difference between being a grownup and an adult, I want to be an adult but not a grownup! Take case in point: My father. My father is the best example of a youthful wonderful playful, maddeningly boyish person, who still is one of the strongest, most mature and supportive person emotionally that I've ever met. And I'm not just saying that because he's my father, I'm saying it because that may mean something to Athena. It may mean something to you because he povides a template... PS:
yes you can be a lost boy AND a man, but there are two ways it can go.. one it works and one it doesn’t:
It tends to not work when emotionally you are a boy and practically you are a man..I’m sure we are all intelligent enough for me to not have to explain why.
It tends to work when emotionally you are a man and bottom line you are a man (ie get your bills paid etc) but you still have the ability to play. You retain the youthful joy.
and I’d argue that that is still fully a man. Who says men as adults have to stop loving legos and exploring?
Why is that “boyish” things?
There is a difference between being a grownup and an adult, I want to be an adult but not a grownup!
Take case in point: My father. My father is the best example of a youthful wonderful playful, maddeningly boyish person, who still is one of the strongest, most mature and supportive person emotionally that I’ve ever met.
And I’m not just saying that because he’s my father, I’m saying it because that may mean something to Athena.
It may mean something to you because he povides a template…

]]> By: megan http://theblissquest.com/blog/2008/02/03/first-star-on-the-right/comment-page-1/#comment-9604 megan Mon, 04 Feb 2008 23:24:35 +0000 http://theblissquest.com/blog/2008/02/03/first-star-on-the-right/#comment-9604 yes and yes and yes to all the comments, but I will point this out in return: Yes we are humans, but sometimes we cannot be humans in the same circle. Yes, we need to accept people for who they are, but part of that sometimes is saying "you are this, I care about you, but I do not want to enable that, or be a part of it." There is a difference between seeing that in the end you do fit in and enjoy it and seeing that you dont WANT to fit in. I think that, -for you- honestly, this is the best course. Yes, it is your habit to keep yourself at the periphery, yes you are basing these judgments on that space you exist in. But just because you are partially responsible for your perspective doesn't mean its wrong. Just because you are not fully engaging and therefore making this choice from that place doesn't mean it's wrong. And just because you are Wendy doesn't mean that you are not strong, if you go read the book wendy is a very strong independant beautiful woman who eventually makes a difficult choice because it is what is right for her. Honestly, I'd be more worried about Tinks than her. But maybe you don't WANT to be Wendy. Period. And I don't think there's anything wrong with that. I think that to get into that group can be very beautiful and fulfilling, but it can alslo be very cancerous...and only you can make that choice. Of course they are beautiful and strong, of course they have redeeming qualities, if they weren't or didn't they wouldn't draw so many people to them, but if you think the best thing is to disentangle, honestly, I think so too. I will talk to you more about this when I am not slightly fever-delirious but I wanted to put that in as one of the "Wendys" who was trapped, and had to leave to be able to come back as a useful and unabused person. I wanted to put that in as a response to some of the other comments. You speak in a way that assumes that the people you are speaking to understand that this is a generalization, a metaphor, you speak in a way that assumes that the people you are talking to know you and know you are not going to jump to conclusions, or know there are exceptions so you don't feel the need to point those exceptions out. I do the same thing, and like me, sometimes it comes to bite you in the ass, because when you speak of sensitive things people have a tendency to lash out a little bit with "but did you think of this". Which is completely understandable, but you did think of that. I know you, I know you did. and so no. not a bad judgment call. yes and yes and yes to all the comments, but I will point this out in return:
Yes we are humans, but sometimes we cannot be humans in the same circle.
Yes, we need to accept people for who they are, but part of that sometimes is saying “you are this, I care about you, but I do not want to enable that, or be a part of it.”
There is a difference between seeing that in the end you do fit in and enjoy it and seeing that you dont WANT to fit in.
I think that, -for you- honestly, this is the best course.
Yes, it is your habit to keep yourself at the periphery, yes you are basing these judgments on that space you exist in.
But just because you are partially responsible for your perspective doesn’t mean its wrong. Just because you are not fully engaging and therefore making this choice from that place doesn’t mean it’s wrong.
And just because you are Wendy doesn’t mean that you are not strong, if you go read the book wendy is a very strong independant beautiful woman who eventually makes a difficult choice because it is what is right for her. Honestly, I’d be more worried about Tinks than her.
But maybe you don’t WANT to be Wendy. Period. And I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that.
I think that to get into that group can be very beautiful and fulfilling, but it can alslo be very cancerous…and only you can make that choice.
Of course they are beautiful and strong, of course they have redeeming qualities, if they weren’t or didn’t they wouldn’t draw so many people to them, but if you think the best thing is to disentangle, honestly, I think so too.
I will talk to you more about this when I am not slightly fever-delirious but I wanted to put that in as one of the “Wendys” who was trapped, and had to leave to be able to come back as a useful and unabused person.
I wanted to put that in as a response to some of the other comments.
You speak in a way that assumes that the people you are speaking to understand that this is a generalization, a metaphor, you speak in a way that assumes that the people you are talking to know you and know you are not going to jump to conclusions, or know there are exceptions so you don’t feel the need to point those exceptions out. I do the same thing, and like me, sometimes it comes to bite you in the ass, because when you speak of sensitive things people have a tendency to lash out a little bit with “but did you think of this”. Which is completely understandable, but you did think of that. I know you, I know you did.
and so no.
not a bad judgment call.

]]> By: Athena http://theblissquest.com/blog/2008/02/03/first-star-on-the-right/comment-page-1/#comment-9596 Athena Mon, 04 Feb 2008 19:32:46 +0000 http://theblissquest.com/blog/2008/02/03/first-star-on-the-right/#comment-9596 Lara dearest! I don't know what you can't see the comments! Stupid Computers!! Lara dearest!
I don’t know what you can’t see the comments!
Stupid Computers!!

]]> By: Athena http://theblissquest.com/blog/2008/02/03/first-star-on-the-right/comment-page-1/#comment-9595 Athena Mon, 04 Feb 2008 19:32:02 +0000 http://theblissquest.com/blog/2008/02/03/first-star-on-the-right/#comment-9595 Hey erraberra, I love having one foot in and one foot out. I'm not so good at the jumping in thing. The water doesn't feel fine :) Hey erraberra,

I love having one foot in and one foot out. I’m not so good at the jumping in thing.

The water doesn’t feel fine :)

]]> By: Athena http://theblissquest.com/blog/2008/02/03/first-star-on-the-right/comment-page-1/#comment-9594 Athena Mon, 04 Feb 2008 19:30:20 +0000 http://theblissquest.com/blog/2008/02/03/first-star-on-the-right/#comment-9594 Hi Brian, "A nice metaphor, but if that’s what you’re seeking, you won’t ever find it, because the planet is filled with regular ol’ human beings, not archetypes." met-a-phor Welcome to the group :) Hi Brian,

“A nice metaphor, but if that’s what you’re seeking, you won’t ever find it, because the planet is filled with regular ol’ human beings, not archetypes.”

met-a-phor

Welcome to the group :)

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